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The 80/20 Rule
Understanding the Dance Between Past Wounds and Present Conflicts Relationships are a rich, complex landscape where past and present intertwine, often without our conscious awareness. In psychological and philosophical terms, we can understand this dynamic through what I call the "80/20 Rule." Imagine this rule as a way to differentiate between a response to what is happening in real time . . . the here and now of you and your partner's behavior . . . and a response that is s
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Oct 6, 20245 min read
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Ritual in Relationship
Creating Spiritual and Relational Intimacy in a Disconnected World In our fast-paced world, the concept of ritual can feel antiquated or...
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Sep 30, 20246 min read
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Emotional Safety in Relationships
Emotional safety is the bedrock of any healthy relationship, whether a marriage, partnership, or any other form of intimate connection....
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Sep 24, 20245 min read
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Shame, Blame and Fear of Commitment
Blame and shame can appear early in a relationship, particularly for newer couples grappling with the uncertainties of commitment. When...
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Sep 18, 20246 min read
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Remodeling a Marriage
The Blueprint for Deconstruction and Reconstruction Anyone who has ever remodeled a home knows it's not just about picking out the...
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Sep 12, 20244 min read
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Medicine for Healing the Gap
AHo By Ara Lee https://open.spotify.com/track/2zboZX1riU2sdpIyazeYke?si=b2870729e734427c https://youtu.be/E3lTYDTtRic?si=ciKKPdvKvmRB3ta0...
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Sep 5, 20241 min read
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Silent Plea
By August M. Scott In the glow of screens, the child screams, unseen, Lost in a digital haze, seeking a dopamine dream. Validation, a...
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Aug 29, 20241 min read
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Dopa-Teen: Dopamine, Bonding & Social Media
During pre-adolescence and early adolescence, the brain undergoes substantial restructuring and development, particularly in the...
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Aug 22, 20244 min read
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Bonding & Brain Development
The neurological development of pre-teens and early adolescents, approximately from ages 10 to 15, is a critical period marked by...
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Aug 15, 20243 min read
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Sexuality and Bonding
Sex and sexuality are foundational elements of human relationships, often serving as conduits for intimacy and connection. For many,...
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Aug 8, 20244 min read
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In the Arms of Love
Angel By Sarah McLachlan https://open.spotify.com/track/3xZMPZQYETEn4hjor3TR1A?si=NJlsWXGVSC-BY9vby21kHg https://youtu.be/VLZ9Ike2Geo?si=...
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Aug 2, 20241 min read
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In Love They Dwell
By August M. Scott In realms of hearts where truths unfold, A tale of two, in whispers told. Commitment stands, a steadfast knight, In...
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Jul 27, 20241 min read
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Bonding vs. Commitment
The word "bonding" originates from the Old English "bonda," which means "householder" or "husband." Over time, it evolved to signify a...
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Jul 21, 20244 min read
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Death & Commitment
Death anxiety, commonly thought of as fear of death and dying, significantly influences human behavior and relationships. Mortality...
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Jul 14, 20245 min read
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Commitment in Relationships
Commitment is often heralded as the cornerstone of meaningful relationships, symbolizing dedication, loyalty, and an unwavering resolve...
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Jul 9, 20244 min read
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