Annelisa

Most people begin healing with a fantasy. It is rarely spoken out loud, and often not even conscious, but it is there, nonetheless. The fantasy is that somewhere in the future there exists a version of us who no longer hurts; a version who no longer gets triggered, feels abandoned, becomes anxious when a partner pulls away, or finds themselves overwhelmed by grief, fear, disappointment, or despair. We imagine healing as a kind of arrival. A destination where the difficult fee

The Child Knows A mother, sitting with me in session, describes, almost as an aside, something that happened the week before. Her son is six. They had been reading together, the way they do most nights, and partway through he stopped her and asked, out of nowhere, whether she was going to be okay. Not whether he was okay. Whether she was. She laughs a little when she tells me this, the laugh people use when something has unsettled them more than they want to admit. "He's six,

Couples rarely come to me because they've fallen out of love. The most common reason they come is to repair what has ruptured between them, the slow accumulation of misunderstanding and defense that builds in any long partnership. But close behind it, almost as often, is something else entirely: their children. A nine year old who has stopped listening to anything either parent says. A fourteen year old who is dissociating, lying, hiding in a room with the door locked, cuttin

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