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If You Want Me
If You Want Me To Stay By Sly and The Family Stone https://open.spotify.com/track/2BydLQAh7CUIFvSEqAMc4x?si=fe63718be5604730If ...
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Aug 31, 20251 min read


You Did Not Come Here to Be Safe
You did not come here to fold your wild soul into a shape someone else could name. You did not come here to bargain with your ache, to...
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Aug 24, 20251 min read


Real Relational Repair
We are taught to repair relational rupture with the language of goodwill. Apologies. Acknowledgments. Promises to do better. And for many...
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Aug 16, 20255 min read


The Unconscious Commitment
By the time couples realize they’ve drifted, the dance is already well-rehearsed. Not necessarily in words or fights or silence, though...
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Aug 8, 20255 min read


How Conscious Couples Lose Connection
The Drift They’ve done the work. They’ve been to therapy; maybe even trained as therapists; often both of them are therapists. They can...
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Jul 31, 20254 min read


Holding Yourself
Hold Yourself Here By Jai Chand & Grayson https://youtu.be/47InqDaF-sE?si=CBX0TmU7-IQG2Ffs https://open.spotify.com/track/4rc0uH9giNLO4To...
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Jul 24, 20251 min read


Holding Each Other
With Nothing but Everything Your love should weep for you when you lie and say you are not afraid. They should spill wine upon your robe...
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Jul 14, 20251 min read


Need and 100% Responsibility
The Myth of Self-Sufficiency . . . Need, Support, and Intimacy Somewhere along the way, many of us internalized a lie: If you were truly...
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Jul 4, 20254 min read


Responding vs. Reacting
There is a moment in every conflict . . . a split-second pivot point . . . where we either lean toward connection or toward protection....
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Jun 21, 20254 min read


Intimacy and 100% Responsibility
When We Can’t Respond . . . The Disappearance of Self We can't really respond to ourselves, let alone anyone else, if we’re not fully...
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Jun 8, 20255 min read


Being in the Body
The Emerald Podcast , hosted by Josh Schrei, is a visceral, mythic journey into the intelligence of the body and the living world. Rooted...
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May 30, 20251 min read


Come Dance
The God who only knows four words . . . By Hafiz Every child Has known God, Not the God of names, Not the God of don’ts, Not the God who...
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May 24, 20251 min read


The Paradox of Presence
At the heart of witnessing lies a paradox: in seeking to come closer to ourselves, we risk stepping away. In the longing to be fully...
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May 18, 20253 min read


The Art of Witnessing
In the quiet terrain where human beings meet, beyond words and beyond the grasp of intellect, there exists the profound act of...
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May 6, 20252 min read


Connection to Self and Other
In order to speak meaningfully about the subtle paradoxes of being in committed partnerships, clarifying what we mean when we say "we...
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Apr 28, 20252 min read
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